Men are 3 times more likely to commit suicide from divorce than divorced women. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes, 5 times the average. (US Dept of Health/Census)
Today it seems like there are no outlets for men who are going through divorce or separation, and no real mentorship programs for men who want to live a life of purpose. There are programs that show you how to make money, and lot’s of it, but what about purpose? What about living the life that God intended for you? When it is our time, we aren’t leaving with a U-Haul truck pulling up to the pearly gates, but what we are going with is what we did here, and how we lived our life.
Money is a tool, the Bible mentions money over 800 times, so there is a significance to money. It will open doors and provide options, but it should never be the focal point. God should be, and his blessing should be the focal point, not the reward.
We all have a God given purpose, which is worth more than any amount of money because it’s what we can give, rather than receive that is important. Society wants us to focus on money but leaves our heart out of the equation. Faithfully Led focuses on the heart, and builds a foundation that is based on biblical principles, bedrock, rather than society constructs.
As men we are the fixers, the conquerors, but we are also human. We also want to be loved, as much as we want to love. Society has been tearing apart the fabric of what is being masculine.
Growing up in New York City you are always in the middle of something. I was always learning something new and learned to do things with a purpose. As a kid growing up with a dad who worked hard as a bus driver, and a reservist in the military, and a mom who kept the home together in our tiny two bedroom apartment. Watching my other older siblings achieving other goals but also settling into the life of a New Yorker. By no means was I shielded from the inner city drama of peer pressure, ignorance, and all the aspects of growing up in one of the largest cities in the world, but I learned that small space of real estate wasn't what the world was all about.
Moving to the west coast Mecca of entertainment, Las Vegas, NV, I entered the workforce, becoming humble of what little I knew about life, and starting my path to becoming a leader among my peers. From retail jobs, to becoming a travel agent, and enlisting in the United States Air Force I had the drive to help others no matter what was going on in my life. After 9/11 and returning to my unit to help take part early on in what was known as Operation Noble Eagle. Launching and recovering F-16 Fighter Jets to perform Combat Air Patrols over America's skies, it started my path to becoming closer with Christ and finding my way to becoming a greater leader.
Over my career in the military I was constantly humbled about what life is really about. Experiencing different cultures, making life long friends, seeing life from a different point of view. All the while making a difference while serving our country I was constantly inspired and wanted to grow more spiritually and professionally. After many setbacks and personal losses, and constant pressure to conform to the definition of what society deemed a "good life" I settled into a routine. This was by far my biggest challenge because I had no idea how to just be like everyone else. I got married, started a family, changed careers in the military, almost losing my career in the military, and eventually losing my marriage.
The most important lesson I learned about all of this was change was inevitable and we truly have no control over what happens, only to how we react to it. I have failed constantly, only to become stronger and greater than before. I have sinned against God, and have been humbled by my actions and lessons learned. The one constant that has always been true, that God truly loves us, he truly has a better plan for us, and that he truly inspires us to become greater than our own vision of ourselves. We are not individuals, but a family. It is my passion to help others and inspire them to unlock their greatness that is dormant inside of them. Especially those who feel like God or life has given up on them, but like the sheppard, we all rejoice after finding the lost one and bring them home to the flock.
Battling depression, dealing with the pain of a career that looked to be over. All the hard work and commitment that was put into it, only to be betrayed by "leaders" that claimed to value me and my experience. Compounded with a marriage that was falling apart and the inevitable divorce that plunged me deeper into depression and despair. The rapid life change that at first I did not want to adapt to, that I was in denial of, only to be saved by the love of Christ. I make no apologies for my faith but only want to share my story, and help others like myself to step back from the cliff, and know that they are not alone, they are truly loved, and that salvation and peace is there, only if you are willing to take that step in that direction.
I am sharing with you a few verses that helped me long my journey, and I pray it will help you.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!
Luke 15:21-24 21 "The son said to him, 'Father I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.' 22 "But the father said to his servants, 'Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. 24 For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; for he was lost and is found.' So they began to celebrate.
John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends.
Luke 15:1-7 1 Now the tax collectors and sinners were all gathering around to hear Jesus. 2 But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law muttered, "This man welcomes sinners and eats with them."
3 Then Jesus told them this parable: 4 "Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn't he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? 5 and when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders 6 and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbors together and says, 'Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.' 7 I tell you that in the same way there will be more rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents than over the ninety-nine righteous persons who do not need to repent.
Mark 11:22-24 22 So Jesus answered and said to them, "Have faith in God." 23 "For assuredly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, 'be removed and be cast into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. 24 "Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask for when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them."
Certified John C. Maxwell Team coach/speaker/mentor.
United States Air Force Veteran of 17 years.
Training manager for NJANG F-16 Crew Chiefs.
from 2012-2014 increased training and productivity rates by 20%.
NJ State Life Insurance certified.
FAA Certified Private Pilot.
Flight Engineer KC-10A with 630 flight hours.
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